Why You Keep Ignoring Your Gut

And the Cost of Staying Silent

By Ingjerd Jensen

That Voice You Keep Pushing Down

You know the feeling.

That cold, creeping dread in the pit of your stomach. The quiet whisper that something is off. Even when the surface looks polished and perfect.

It is the nudge to hesitate. The internal alarm bell you desperately try to muffle.

I have ignored my own intuition more times than I care to admit. And every single time, the cost was higher than I expected.

I share these stories not as a cautionary tale from a distant expert. I share them as a map. Because I have walked this road, and I know how dark it gets when you stop listening to yourself.

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The Pedestal Trap: When You Give Your Power Away

Early in my career, I traded my discernment for the comfort of a false ally.

I hired a marketing assistant. The beginning was productive. But a toxic pattern quickly emerged.

I was paying for hours of talking while the actual work gathered dust. She showed up late to every single call. And I sat there waiting, swallowing my anger and sadness, convincing myself this was normal.

I stayed in that relationship for nearly two years.

Why?

Because I had fallen into the pedestal trap. Driven by a scarcity mindset, I convinced myself she was the only person who could help me. The only person who understood my vision.

“I had a really stubborn paradigm making me small. I let the belief of me not being worthy enough, me needing people to help me because I do not get it… take over.”

When you operate from a place of unworthiness, you outsource your power. You put others on a pedestal and shrink yourself to fit in their shadow.

You ignore your gut because you are terrified that standing alone is worse than being disrespected.

But here is the truth: it is not.

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Why the Same Lesson Keeps Showing Up

Life is a persistent teacher.

It will send you the same lesson in different disguises until you finally learn it.

After the marketing assistant, a second person entered my life. Someone on the same level, a business partner. And almost immediately, the pattern repeated. They showed up late. They refused to meet on my terms. They dictated the relationship entirely.

These were not just unlucky hires. They were manifestations of my refusal to value my own time and intuition.

The loop continues until you make a definitive decision.

And breaking the loop requires the power of “No.” 

“No” is not just a refusal. It is the act of taking the other person off the pedestal and placing yourself back on it. Until you recognize your own value, the universe will keep sending people to test your boundaries.

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The Rationalization Game: “But I Am in Love”

Rationalization is the ego’s favorite way to silence the soul.

Years ago, I dated a music producer who looked like Slash from Guns N’ Roses. He was gorgeous. He played guitar. He promised to record my album.

On paper, it was the dream.

In reality, the red flags were waving from day one. He did not have the money he claimed to have. The album never seemed to move past the excuses stage.

I brushed off every warning. My ego was desperate to convince him I was the best, believing that if I were just good enough, he would change.

And then came a moment of clarity I will never forget.

I was on my bicycle, riding to see him. And a voice spoke inside me with terrifying precision:

“Do not do it. Turn around and go back home. You will regret this.”

I felt that warning in every fiber of my being.

And I kept pedaling.

The ego’s fear of loneliness is often louder than the body’s scream for safety. I was more afraid of being alone than I was of being lied to.

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The Price of Silence

The cost of ignoring my gut eventually became literal.

When he moved back to his home country, I began sending him money so he could “work in studios.” I sent almost all of my money. Funding a fantasy while he did absolutely nothing.

I had all the proof I needed that he was a fraud. But to acknowledge that truth would mean acknowledging that I was wrong.

And that felt unbearable.

We often fund our own destruction just to avoid the pain of a bruised ego. We choose to stay blind because sight requires us to change. And change is terrifying.

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When Shame Keeps You Trapped

The final collapse happened after I moved across the world to be with him.

The truth did not just knock. It broke down the door.

His own brother-in-law pulled me aside and told me loud and clear that he was cheating on me. He said it right there, while my boyfriend was standing in the same room.

I was gutted. I could not sleep. I was falling apart inside.

And yet, I still did not leave immediately.

I was trapped in a cage of internal shame. Terrified of going home and hearing people say, “I told you so.” I did not want the label of failure.

Internal shame is the ultimate silencer of the gut feeling.

We stay in toxic situations long after our intuition has checked out because we are more afraid of public judgment than we are of our own internal rot.

I only left when the pain of staying finally outweighed the fear of being judged.

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Putting Down the Luggage

My transformation did not happen overnight.

It required a process of putting down the heavy luggage. The shame. The failure. The self-doubt. All of it.

And I want you to hear this clearly.

There is nothing wrong with you. There has never been anything wrong with you.

You are capable and strong. But it takes immense courage to open your own wounds and look at the stubborn patterns that keep you small.

Growth is not a destination where challenges disappear. Even with success and money, the challenges simply change shape. It is a continuous, beautiful process of learning to trust yourself.

So here is my question for you.

What is the one gut feeling you are currently suppressing?

And what is the true cost — financial, emotional, or spiritual — of staying silent for one more day?

You already know the answer.

You have always known.

Ingjerd Jensen is a mindset mentor and growth strategist who helps women break free from the labels that have defined them their whole lives. She walks alongside her clients — never above them — guiding them to rebuild self-trust and create lives rooted in freedom, purpose, and ease.